Yes, it’s true! These hippies caved into society and are trying this thing called marriage.

We have never been people of titles or big celebrations. When we were younger we thought that we just had to do it because it was what people do. I guess we don’t like the fact that society defines it for you, we wanted to define our relationship, our union on our own terms. As we got older and started living and sharing our life together we realized that we were just happy being in the moment and our commitment was no different than if we were married. However, 11 years later, owning property together and getting older we realized that legally we benefited and secured ourselves by signing that marriage certificate. It’s not that we’re against it, we believe in the union of any two people however they define it and respect that. I do believe it’s a personal thing like so many things in life and we’re firm believers in following traditions only that make sense to us. Speaking of which, I will not be changing my last name. Most of our close friends and family know, but they might have forgotten. It’s just so personal to me, it’s a part of me and really don’t like where that tradition comes from. If I’m really being honest, don’t really understand why the tradition continues given where it comes from. Should we be blessed with children in the future, they will carry both our names, that makes more sense to us. I am blessed to be with a wonderful man that shares the same values and opinions on these matters, no wonder I married him, right?  :)

The Santa Barbara Courthouse where we wed is beautiful and while the weather did not cooperate, hello mist and gloominess! That night we enjoyed a Jack Johnson concert and spent the weekend just relaxing in the sleepy town of Santa Barbara, you can read more on that here. Our lovely friend Trude had offered the minute I told her about our plans that she needed to take our photos. Photos? But we’re just signing documents, we don’t need photos. The more I thought of it I realized that we didn’t have any nice professional photos of us and how can I be a photographer and not have that for myself? Thanks Trude for the gift of these wonderful photos and being there.

A big thank you to our friends and family that never questioned our commitment or viewed us in judgement for not having this marriage certificate all these years. Thank you for understanding us and for your support!

We dream of renewing our vows in some place magical with our closest friends and family in celebration in the near future, until then I leave you with our favorite photos from the day.

Isn’t this cool? Someone had created this all over the beach for us to enjoy. 😉

Photos by the fabulous Trude of Ellingsen Photo. Editing by yours truly.

In short. Boy meets girl 11 years ago, boy in military and girl in college, we survive a long distance relationship across the country for almost 2 years, boy moves to California to be with girl, we buy a condo and start living, travel, then more travel along with lot’s of barbecues and cooking at home, we dream and follow, here we are now. This is our story and we are very happy.

I love this man and his love empowers me everyday.

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November 10, 2010 - 4:58 pm


November 5, 2010 - 1:06 am

Melissa Munding Awwww yay! You look gorgeous and breezy and beautiful. Looks like it was a great day…I’m so glad : )

November 3, 2010 - 9:40 pm

lori um, YAYYAYYAYAYYAYAAAYYYYY!!!!! Congrats you two! You both look UNBELIEVABLY gorgeous. welcome to the club!!!

October 30, 2010 - 10:45 am

andrea Congratulations! You two are a gorgeous couple and the beautiful photos just ooze with happiness. Much happiness, laughter, and travel for you both in the years to come!

October 28, 2010 - 10:53 am

Blair Van Bussel You two are so beautiful together Nancy. I totally respect your thoughts about marriage, but I bet it feels good to call him your husband after all this time together! :) And yes, you MUST have photos of your wedding , regardless of how small or simple it is, so glad your sweet friend offered! She did a fantastic job! :)

October 28, 2010 - 10:33 am

Mytimom Your happiness and joy make my eyes mist over! Congratulations to a beautiful couple.

October 28, 2010 - 9:17 am

Trude You’re both gorgeous. I’m so proud of you and your commitment to each other is an inspiration. Thank you for trusting me and letting me share your day! xoxox

October 28, 2010 - 9:10 am

Dawn Beautiful pictures and congrat’s to an amazing couple we had the pleasure of becoming friends with this year in Cancun. I’m am so happy for the both you and can’t wait to see the both of you again in New Orleans. Your Friends from NO, Dawn and Shane

October 28, 2010 - 8:53 am

Christi Traster I ADORE these photos – you look so happy and in love. I keep looking them over and over, and I think my favorite is the 7th one down. You know, the one where you’re glowing? Oh wait. That’s all of them. 😉 They’re fabulous. Congratulations!!!